Strong Will to Survive

Life is a wonderful thing and we should all learn to cherish it. Having a strong will to survive in this world, will lead you to greater life.

Commen Sense

Common Sense is the first step to finding your Will to survive. Common Sense tell you to stop worrying about what others think. Follow what your heart tells you to and don't beat yourself up if it isn't in a "normal" time factor. In this particular case my article is based on the loss of someone I loved & Lost. Read on!

Determination

Determination. Everyone thinks they can determine your route to your survival. "You shouldn't wallow in the pain of it, self pity or you should move on and realize you have other things to live for". They mean well, but they aren't in your skin. Great advise if your sitting on the giving end of that. But the reality is, there are no book of rules or time factors to determine when you are ready to dust it off and get busy! If it isn't in the timely fashion of all of your well wishers ... don't sweat it! They aren't you! Find what motivates you and try to stick to it to pull you up and out. You can do it...Determination goes a long way!

Reason

Reason. It is not always obvious so this may take a moment for you to find. Or it can be the most obvious reason you could have & hit you in the face like a baseball! In the above picture you will meet my son, Jordan and his father Henry. That was my reason...my son. He lost his father to a fatal head on collision a couple of weeks before they were to be together again. It hurt, devastated and knocked me for a loop! I had just lost my mother to Inflammatory Breast Cancer about 11 weeks before that and was dealing with loss and moving on when all of a sudden the rug was ripped out from under me again! So, my reason to go on was all of the people I would leave behind if I didn't find, my "will to survive". Mine was my children and most importantly, my son. He was hurting enough and he needed strength from me. So, I willed myself to move..even when it hurt and I didn't want to. (Did I mention I may have had a shove or two from a couple of people...but never the less, it was effective!)

Heart

Heart. Not all of us have the heart to do it. We may feel like giving up or just giving in to the pain to the point of incapacitation. Your common sense and determination may be there. And you may even be telling yourself to "GET REAL"! But the truth is if your heart isn't in it, you won't be able to do it. It won't matter the amount of reasons you may have that are valid and necessary, you have to have the heart to survive! My heart was my son. If I leave him he is on his own and he needed me. (I can't count on his sisters to not kill him before he makes it to a man...did I mention he is 14 and need I say more?) Just like I am sure someone or something is depending on you. Everyone has accountability. You account to something in life, no one is free completely. We may not want to admit it. But it is there. And somewhere in the middle of all the chaos, your heart will point it out to you and you will pick yourself up and move on. In the most hopeless of hope, there is a ray of light. Look and you will find it. If not ... Dude! Find a Shrink Fast!!!! ;o)